Culture of good treatment

The good deal, the way you address people, education-based, empathy and good manners, there is a saying that says "treat others as you want to be treated", and boy is that very true.

I have no doubt that the culture of good treatment of children and towards children is one of the basic tools to be able to do what we have to do correctly in society, because if the little ones learn by imitation, and see that you as a father, maestro, mentor, you are empathetic, without violence, With respect, without a doubt they will copy your behavior growing with it ingrained and it will contribute to at least their environment being free of violence.

Violence… a word we hear every day on the news, violence, it is the badly habitual behavior that we see in children, youth and adults wherever we go, indistinct the socio-economic place they have, we live in a society full of intolerance, where good treatment and respect is lagging behind but at the same time one complains about how bad we are having, of homicides, of crime without looking in the mirror the intolerance and frustration that we bring out every day.

From the moment you go in the car with the children behind and you go screaming, criticizing how the people next door handle you are forgetting respect and good treatment and the child believes that it is normal to get angry.

Then, to speak of the good treatment of the child is to have joy, availability, empathy, time and space to live together in a healthy way giving them a dignified and loving treatment where they can develop properly. A child or adolescent who is well treated is happy, because he feels that he is heard and recognized, is a child who can easily express their emotions and is able to trust the people around them. Based on the previous example where there is intolerance, there is no good deal because the child will not feel the confidence to open up for fear of being judged.

Good practices that start in the family environment and continue in school are the fundamental bases, those that should NOT go out of style no matter how “millenial” is the time in which they say we live, the values ​​and the formation of a happy child help him to socialize and shape his personality.

Within the European Union, the following points of positive parental actions stand out:

• The child has the right to affection and support
• Interaction with children is vital for their development
• The evolutionary characteristics and behaviors typical of age must be understood, combining them with discipline, proper education and treatment
• Open communication, hear, and above all respecting their points of view as well as promoting their participation in family dynamics and decisions speak of an inclusive attitude
• The limits on behavior and the guidance norms to generate expectations lead to the motivation to achieve a goal will make its fulfillment easier
• Reactions to inappropriate behaviors should have consistent consequences, explaining why they are, as long as violent punishments or punishments out of proportion to both the offense and the age of the child are avoided, remember… tolerance and respect.

Although it is true that the behavior of each child is different and that it is not always easy, we must always take into account their age, its context, the people with whom he is continuously related in addition to the affective bond that we have with them and the state of mind that is the constant, since all these factors affect the minor in their behavior and in their way of seeing life, parents are or are the child's first approach to society.

Specialists consider it important to educate not only children but also parents in tolerance, respect, empathy and communication, that is, teach parents verbal behaviors, paraverbal and gestures and body postures that help or affect the growth of the child and what are the impressions that we unintentionally give them, because many times it happens that the child receives a double message that in the long run is confusing for them, taking into account that, children learn through parental behavior.

To make it, the Spanish Association of Pediatrics offers some advice that stands out among others:

• Carry out household chores together with the children as they not only enjoy the company of their parents but also learn the value of responsibility and teamwork, besides making them feel useful, accepted and part of the family… An important part, makes them contribute at home and creates individuals much more autonomous and competent for life.
• To achieve mutual respect, responsibility and the habit of cooperating with tasks that are proportionate to their age, limits and knowing how to listen is the key, listening to both children and adults is necessary for the recognition of merits and things that have been done correctly.

Some studies reveal that for children of whatever age it is important to perceive the time, the affection and recognition of their actions, motivates them, regardless of the family situations that sometimes happen, In this case, the lost time can be vital in the growth and in the focus of goals for the children.

The good deal also, To conclude, it is that assertiveness towards the children and towards the world that surrounds us, it does not mean that they do what they want or justify their bad behaviors because they are children, no, It is about guiding them governed by rules and limits that help them to moderate their behaviors and to get on track, being respectful to others and to everything around them, from objects, pets, plants, other people's property, etc, parents starting with the example by treating others as they wish to be treated.

Reference: https://www.guiainfantil.com/blog/educacion/conducta/la-cultura-del-buen-trato-a-los-ninos/