No Bullying

We know that, Bullying has been around for a long time, However, over the years the situation has worsened, especially in the school environment.. Talking about bullying is intimidation or harassment, differs from a joke when there is an imbalance in relation to power and strength, being of a repetitive nature manifesting itself in a physical way, verbal or social.

We also know that each child is a different world, with different families, sometimes the so-called "cheek" may be acceptable to a certain extent if it does not exceed the limits of each individual, but it is not correct if we talk about education and teaching from home. bullying as such, has existed in any part of coexistence, even at the work level. But, with the appearance of social networks the problem went to another level, turning these digital media into an instant gateway to bullying by expanding its reach.

Bullying is no longer just face-to-face but also cyber through mobile devices where videos can be quickly recorded, issue publications and comments that affect the integrity of a child anonymously even.

Social and cyber pressure has exceeded the maximum levels allowed even in Mexico, as in other countries of the world, the pressure has been so great that cases of suicides of children and adolescents have been recorded for this reason..

As parents and teachers, It is necessary to take into account some aspects to avoid and detect bullying among children and young people in time.

Teachers and academic authorities

be alert: All teachers must be aware and aware that bullying can occur in private places such as bathrooms, and in the hour of rest as in corridors, buses and places with people around, because if you have a mobile phone, who may have little or no supervision may actually do the bullying. You have to keep in mind, and let students know that informing the school authorities if they are victims of bullying is not to expose but to prevent the problem from escalating or becoming irreversible.. Each teacher should be obliged to prevent and report the situation for investigation and take the necessary measures with the support of specialists..

Student and parent participation: It is very important to be all on the same channel, since to reach a solution they must support each other, giving your child or student the confidence to tell what happened can open doors for an adult to guide them on how to intervene or act in case of bullying and how to channel energy into something positive.

Positive thoughts and attitudes: Inside as outside, we must provide children with a safe environment by constantly reminding them that bullying is unacceptable, since it has irreversible consequences in many cases for the correct development of children and their future temperament. There are children who, as a result of the harassment they tend to isolate themselves, which makes them potential victims, in this case the teachers can give them activities or help to create new friendships, which will allow them to feel more comfortable helping to a great extent to prevent harassment.

Parents of children who are victims of bullying

LOOK: Children's attitudes at home, it is difficult for a child victim of bullying to accept and share what is happening to them, however here are some signs that parents should be aware of:

• Torn clothing or belongings
• Fear or reluctance to go to school
• Zero appetite
• Nightmares, crying or depression
• Anxiety
• Isolation

To give security and confidence to the minor to approach, it is necessary to avoid phrases like “hold on, do not complain, it will pass, don't give them importance, ignore them” Well, far from helping him, we are participating and downplaying. attitude at home, and support are essential to overcome such incidents, and be able to take the appropriate measures, putting the safety and tranquility of the child first.

Teach him to deal with the situation: Not being able to take a measurement instantly, advice from parents can help them deal with bullying but without violence, then we are completing a vicious circle, it is better to create strategies to deal with bullying, how to identify teachers and friends who can help you in the moment. Coping isn't always fighting, although it is defending oneself but in an intelligent way without completing the violent circle.

LIMITS TO THE USE OF TECHNOLOGY: This point, I dare to emphasize it, because unlike people born in the 1980s and earlier, we don't live or grew up with social media, but the new generations yes, and you can see normal publication in said media, which has many positive aspects, but, What limits are we referring to??

• use the internet, networks and devices in a supervised and time-balanced manner
• Establish schedules and time periods to interact on the internet
• Monitor SMS or Whatsapp text messages
• Watch your contacts, it is important to know with whom your child talks
• Teach him not to reply to threatening messages
• Add your children's networks to your networks and activate age-appropriate filters on both your computer and mobile phone
• Phones must be stored within the reach of an adult
• Prevent their use at night
• If you see something unusual, report it and give it the proper follow-up

Unlike years ago, harassment, Bullying or cyberbullying is already a crime and is punishable, For the same reason, if as a parent you have detected and identified who is harassing your child, save all evidence as text messages, post office, comments on networks and go to the authorities.

For parents of bullying children

Undoubtedly, here it is not only about the suffering of the victim and his family, we have to think about the feelings of the parents of bullying children, that can range from grief, Courage, impotence, guilt feeling that they are doing something wrong. They say that, the main education comes from home, for the same, before judging a harasser we have to stand in the center of their environment to be able to understand the situation and nip the problem in the bud. Bullying children can usually be abused children, insecure, with anxiety and through anger they manage to get out what consumes them inside. To make it, Going to a specialist who can help you as a family is one of the first steps, not without first facing and accepting the behavioral problem that the child harasser presents.

Prevent and stop bullying sooner: Talk early about bullying, channel anxiety into goals and recreational activities such as sports or art, they can be the way to interact and adapt to the social environment in this way your mind can be kept occupied in something other than causing damage and taking it out on third parties, nevertheless, mention that harassment can have legal consequences.

home without stalkers: children are like a sponge, they manage to absorb everything they see, and although the first example comes from home, You have to observe the family environment in detail in a mirror. From home there may be stalkers, Brothers, cousins ​​and even parents when they expose the children in extremely strict behavior, aggressive, of unnecessary comparisons and rivalries that can lead the minor to bullying with children who, feel more vulnerable. Therefore, guardians have the responsibility to set a positive example of dealing with people, whether or not they are members of the family..

classmates in general

Classmates are important for prevention work, however, we also know that the fear of retaliation is great, the fear of being labeled a “gossip or snitch” and then being a victim as well, but with adequate information, can be achieved how?

• Report cases of personal cyber bullying towards them or others, to be able to attack the problem authorities, parents and teachers should be on the same channel, it is more common than you think that witnesses or victims omit the situation for fear of the punishment of the phones, But far from that, the ideal is to support your children by making them see that bullying is wrong and should be resolved by an adult..
• Violence breeds violence: And, although it is difficult to accept, and can cause impotence, violence must not be answered with violence, anger and crying encourage the bully and join the vicious circle of bullying.

• Not be alone: The company always helps, not being alone most of the time can prevent situations from occurring where there are no teachers or more classmates present. Be accompanied at recess time, using alternative corridors or being next to someone you trust reduces the risk of being harassed.

Bullying must be reported to be attacked, combat and resolve, students who are bullied tend to feel overwhelmed, anxious, depressed. The help of a specialist such as a psychologist or therapist with their professional training can help the harassed to overcome the situation and discover the origin of the harassing behavior. Going to therapy to heal the ravages of bullying can provide a successful future socially as well as academically.

Reference: apa.org