Am i a good father?
Have you felt lost as parents? Do you have moments when you don't know if you do the right thing?
Quiet, sit down a bit, Take a deep breath and give yourself a few minutes to read this post that could be of help!!!
It is very normal for you to experience these types of feelings or emotions, I would even dare to call them "little crises", Because it is not that we all happen to us, ALL, The days, but rather sporadic or for seasons, And let me tell you that it is fine, And it is valid! Not only our children are in a development and learning process, If not that we are wrapped in the, Learn to be a family father, Guide and example is not an easy or fast task so what I can ask for , It is patience, continuous work and much AMOR And when I say the word love I do not mean only one that we exterior to others; children, couple, parents, friends , If not to which we give ourselves when we take care of ourselves, We try, We love each other, We are self compassionate and especially when we stop being slaves of our emotions and thoughts.
There they say that: The word convinces, But the example drags!, We are convinced that it is so, Let's not pretend that our children are good human beings, Successful and happy, If we are not able to be ourselves.
How many times have we raised the voice, hit or expressed hurtful words towards our children; from an apparently unfounded excess of anger it seems that its simple presence bothers us, A burst of emotions without control, Ask yourself if the time you are with your child is quality? If you know how to listen, If you have the sensitivity of understanding it, If you take 20 O 5 minutes to play something that both like, If you ask how was your day today? If you were on that important date for him? Do you celebrate your achievements? Have you been in your failures, You corrected attitudes? Do you know what a limit is?, I don't know those are questions that only you can answer, And calm those answers are just yours and they are with the intention of judging, Evaluate or reward the best or the worst father, But remember if we don't start to question ourselves will be more difficult to start!
The most important thing is always to be aware that something is wrong and have the willingness to change and I know that everyone will be asked how do I do it? How do I start? Well, the answer is very simple begins by loving you! Learn to identify your emotions and call them by name.
We have to understand that our dreams are not always those of our children, that our errors are not an inheritance, that stories are not repeated, that you can always change and be better that we do not have to pass our emotional wounds as if they were part of the DNA.
All that fear you feel now and those immense desire you have that you never suffer do not depend on you, Eventually it will pass, It will be wrong, will fail, You will know the sadness, The heartbreak, rejection, fear etc.; But you will also know the love, courage, happiness, happiness, accomplishment, compassion; What depends on you is to give you those emotional tools so that I can fight out there and be an excellent being human, successful Y feliz!
And now! Good to work on oneself, Each one works in different ways and we have different needs the advice we can give you to first improve the relationship with you same son:
- Learn to listen to what your emotions and especially your body say; Rest is important, The time alone also works perfect do not feel guilty we all need it.
- Take up something you love to do; rolling salt, Train again, Learn something new, Go to that kind of kitchen that always cysts.
- Take care of your body and feed well, Exercise periodic exams review your pressure sees the dentist etc.
- Meditate, reza, Believe and faith you a lot of faith.
- Surround yourself with the people you love and love you and share good times with them especially with your children and your partner; Cenen together; See a movie, visit somewhere they do not know, They play tourist what allows them to have a family time that will comfort you and help you in this process.
- Learn not to say, That word costs us so much, But if we learn to use it we will save us huge emotional wear.
- And finally and for me the most important works in you with therapy and if you do not like or is not within your reach or you think it is not for you just take for a while, Look for a quiet and remote space without interruptions off your phone, Breathe and eat yourself to question everything you like and not, of your life and you will find many answers.
The last thing we want to tell you is that they take it easy everything is a process. The important thing is to start; We hope this can help them and that another perspective of the panorama!